Don’t ‘We’ on Yourself!

A fun way to keep the debrief light is to start getting people to notice how often we use the non-specific noun ‘We’, which we all do frequently when really we mean ‘I’. It is one particular way to spread around the responsibility and not take accountability for our own actions, opinions, failures and successes. Listen closely. When a person says ‘We’, when it should be ‘I’, stop them politely and say: “Don’t ‘We’ on yourself’.  Who specifically?” The group will catch on quickly and join in the fun.  However, watch that it does not take away from the meaning[…]Read More…

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Clarity Techniques

Facilitators use these techniques to reflect verbiage back to participants.  Do not judge their words, simply be a mirror for them to judge their own words.  Be careful not to ‘throw’ the responses in their face and always be polite, saying “Excuse me” if you need to interrupt. [threecol_one][/threecol_one] [threecol_one]Person Uses:[/threecol_one] [threecol_one_last]Facilitator Responds:[/threecol_one_last] [threecol_one]Universals[/threecol_one] [threecol_one]All Every Never[/threecol_one] [threecol_one_last]“ALL?” “Every?” “Never?”[/threecol_one_last] [threecol_one]’Rules'[/threecol_one] [threecol_one]Should Shouldn’t Must Can’t[/threecol_one] [threecol_one_last]”What would happen if…?” “What causes or prevents…?” “Must?” “Can’t?“[/threecol_one_last] [threecol_one]Non-Specific Verbs[/threecol_one] [threecol_one][/threecol_one] [threecol_one_last]”How specifically?“[/threecol_one_last] [threecol_one]Non-Specific Nouns[/threecol_one] [threecol_one]We It[/threecol_one] [threecol_one_last]”Who specifically?” “What specifically?“[/threecol_one_last] [threecol_one]Quantifiers[/threecol_one] [threecol_one]Too Much Too Many Too Expensive[/threecol_one] [threecol_one_last]”Compared to what?“[/threecol_one_last] [threecol_one]Statements[/threecol_one] [threecol_one]I don’t[…]Read More…

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